GBE 20: Things this old man has learned about life

The GBE #20 prompt is "LIFE" or "What one small thing could've changed your life forever?"

Things this old man has learned about life

I wish I could say that I have learned something new for every day of my life. Maybe I have, but I really don't remember all of them.
I would like to say that I could list one thing I have learned for every year of my life. Maybe I could, but that would be like 70 things. That would be much too long for a blog.
So, with that in mind, I am merely going to mention the big ones that come to mind first. While some of these are very cliché, there is a reason clichés become clichés.

Life is not fair.
Contrary to TV sitcoms and dramas. Real life does not neatly wrap itself up in half hour or hour increments. Most if the time problems takes days, months, years, and sometimes a whole life time to reach a resolution. Usually it just leaves you hanging there wondering “What the Hell was that all about?”
The good guy does not always win. If life were fair, all the assholes and mean beans would have a very short life span. “Oops, your bad.” ZAP!
Instead, a lot of them wind up running our companies, our government, and our lives. Meanwhile, some really kind hearted people lead lives of deep desperation.
All you can do is treat others like you would like to be treated, and hope the game of life doesn’t kick your ass. Even when it does, your only recourse is to get up and try again.

Life does not owe you a damn thing.

 It is easier to do nothing, than to attempt anything at all.
It just is. You may never get anywhere or do anything, but it is always easier than trying. Don’t expect life to hand you anything. Unless you were born rich, you are going to have to make your own life happen. Decide what you want. Make a plan. Do it. Which brings us to:

Hope for the best, plan for the worst, work with the changes.
The best thought out plans can sometimes take sudden and unexpected turns towards disastrous results. History, and the evening news, are full of these occurrences.
Try to think things through, consider all the bad things that could happen, and make a plan that you think will get you to your desired end result. Follow that plan and hope it works.
When they don’t go the way you thought they would, take a moment and think of the best way to utilize the changes. Then try to enjoy the result, even if you couldn’t do it exactly the way you had originally envisioned it.

You can do anything with just three things:
Time, determination, and money. Unfortunately, most of us are lacking in at least one of those ingredients for success.

When things are really bad, they can only get better.
Just when you think things can’t get any worse, they sometimes do. At some point they HAVE to get better. As the Doors sang “Well, I've been down so Goddamn long, that it looks like up to me”. Even if it’s a tiny bit of happiness, enjoy it, hold on to it, because the reverse is also true;

If things are going great, it won’t last.
Just won the lottery? Business going great? Don’t get cocky. Meet the tax man, or all your new, desperately needy friends, and that new cut throat competitor.
Again, enjoy the good times for all they are worth.

Love will find you when you least expect it or are least prepared for it.
The search can be long and frustrating. Sometimes just showing up for life is all it takes to fall in the right direction. Love will usually find you after you have stopped looking and find something else to fill your time.

People are basically the same.
Color, religion, and politics don’t really matter. For the most part, we all want the same kind of things. The main thing that really affects people is an abusive or hopeless environment, or the drugs they come in contact with.

The squeaky wheel gets the oil.
The person that complains the most, usually gets pacified first. But sometimes that squeaky wheel just gets replaced. Let your thoughts be known if it is important to you, but don’t constantly complain about everything.

Things usually happen for a reason.
It may not seem like it at the time. In fact, you may not be aware of the reason for years. In some cases you may never know. But there is usually a reason. It may have even been your own fault.
Occasionally though, there is no rhyme, reason, or even the slightest bit of sense. Shit just happens.

Use it or loose it.
The mind and body need constant exercise. If you don’t use it, muscles turn to flab, and the brain turns to mush. In most things, lots of practice will make you pretty good at just about anything. I’m sure the same goes for sex. You just can’t get enough practice for some things.

Don’t do things half assed.
If you are going to do something, or anything, give it all you’ve got. Otherwise you will never be completely satisfied with the results, and may even wonder why you bothered in the first place.

Life and Karma have a wicked sense of humor.
Try to live a life that keeps them on your side. There is a ying yang full circle of kismet floating around that is just looking for a reason to mess with you.

It’s easier to tell the truth than to remember lies.
Unless you have an exceptionally good memory. I don’t, so I usually tell the truth…or at least some semblance of the truth.

Things that appear to be simple, rarely are.
And you never realize it until well after you have committed yourself to the task.

Nothing in life is totally black and white.
There are always shades of gray, several sides to any story, and most of the time, hidden agendas.

Life is short. Eat dessert first.
You may choke on the brussel sprouts and never get to taste life‘s real goodies.

Arguing and fighting rarely accomplish anything.
Except that is usually pisses everybody off even more. Agree to disagree...and then do whatever you felt like doing in the first place. Which brings us to:

It’s better to apologize than to ask for permission.
At least you’ll get to do whatever it was you wanted to do.

The older you get, the more staying home seems like the best plan.

I thought when I retired I would travel (and photograph those places). I thought I would get back to painting, drawing, and/or rebuild my HO scale train layout. The sad truth is, health and money can limit a lot of options. After all these years, my home is just the way I want it. My health ain’t what it used to be and inflation has seriously raced ahead of what I am willing to spend. Comfort is hard to leave.

Well. That was a long! Maybe I did learn something every day!

Got any words of wisdom to add?

 

My Entry for the Hot Wheels Challenge TV show

I watched the TV show “Hot Wheels Challenge” where people use their first cars as inspiration to create a hot wheels car. They tell their story of how that first car had an effect on their lives, usually some sad story about cancer or some other loss.

Then, using that car, they have to design and create a real car that they think will make a good hot wheels car.

They are pitted against another person with the same constraints. A team helps them use an actual car to create a life size hot wheels car. Then a couple of judges determine which car would best represent the hot wheels brand. There are two contestants each show that compete for a final show off of eight(?) finalist.

Realizing the “reality” of most reality shows being rather lax on real reality, I have questions.

First of all, where do they find the cars in such good shape? Is one of the reasons the people are chosen because the producers can find that persons particular car?

If the cars are in as good as shape as they look on TV (which I seriously doubt) I would hate to chop some of them up. Others? Meh, chop away!

I also wonder if the persons story is part of the judging process. Does a sick kid in a story rate a more likely chance of winning than a story where the kid and parent bond because of the car?

While the finished car creations usually look pretty good, I have to wonder if they look good close up, or if they even run. The fabricators only have two weeks to complete the build. Even if they knew what materials or parts they would need before they started, two weeks is a very short time for such a project.

I googled what happens to these cars after the show, thinking it would be cool to see them in a museum somewhere. According to host Rutledge Wood, “I think most of them are sitting in a warehouse, kind of wondering what their fate is going to be.” He also states that some of the cars will be recycled for their parts, while a few of the higher end vehicles may go to collectors who can fix them up and possibly make them street legal.”

The people that were featured in the TV build show may never see them again.

Being a bit of a Hot Wheels/Matchbook car collector myself, I obviously started to wonder how I might fare on the show. My first thought was “how many different models of Hot Wheels cars have been made?”

Google says: Over 20,000!

Then I thought about my first car; a 1964 two door Chevrolet Impala. A classic for sure! When I got it, it was just a seven year old car at a time when cars were designed to fall apart at 50,000 miles or five years, whichever came first. The car companies even had a term for it: Planned Obsolescence.

My ‘64 Impala was in pretty good shape in 1971 when I got it, considering the state of Chevy manufacturing practices at the time.

I knew that Hot Wheels had already made several models of a 1964 Impala. I even had one. Another quick google search showed over 20 models of that particular year and model! Hmmm. Making a new model from a ‘64 Impala was starting to sound like it would be quite difficult.

My story of how this vehicle affected my life did not have any sick kids or relatives. It did not really help me bond too much with either parent or sibling. My story was rather bland. It was a daily driver. It took me to work and Drive In Theaters. I cruised the neighbor hood in it. My only distractions while driving was whoever was in the car and trying to find an AM radio station.

The trunk was huge so it doubled as a Pick up truck. I could haul lawnmowers or bikes in it with the trunk closed. One time, the poor vehicle got the trunk loaded with a bunch of rocks that should have killed the suspension. When driving back with these, the front of the car was so high, the front tires seemed to be barely touching the road. Later in life my daily driver would be a pickup.

Suddenly, my vision or what my ‘64 Impala hot wheels car would be. An Impala Pick up truck! I instantly had a name for it; Mother Truckin’ Impala.

Since my drawing skills aren’t up to snuff to draw this, I will try to describe it.

I would want it to still be distinctly a ‘64 Impala. The front would be essentially the same look, except the hood would have two reverse hood scoops added. The rear seat would be removed and the roof line moved up to just behind the front doors. A T top would cover the front seats. The rear trunk area would be opened up for a truck bed. An extra set of axles would be added to the back. Not dually’s, but a twin axle. The rear lights, instead of being three horizontally, would be three vertically on either side of the tailgate. Maybe a swept tailpipe running from behind the front wheel, just below the door, to the front of the rear wheel well. It would have to have baby moon hubcaps and trim rings.

I think this would be a unique and cool addition to the Hot Wheels line.

I have recently found a web site that takes typed descriptions and makes an Ai image from it. It couldn’t figure out the tandem axles, the twin hood scoops, the T top or the baby moon and trim rings, but it did pretty good other than that...

 

Travel with no restraints

 

Ahhh. Travel! Hold on. Let me put my shoes on. Okay. I’m ready. Let’s go. Doesn’t matter where.

This weeks GBE’s topic is “If money, travel, and time were no object, what would your top 5 list of countries you would like to visit and spend time in look like?”  Health wasn't mentioned so we'll assume it is not limited either.

The truth is, I never had a huge desire to visit other countries. I was never a group tour kind of person as I prefer to explore on my own time and itinerary. When I do that, I prefer to be able to understand the signs. Particularly if I’m driving.

That being said, I would love to see the old architecture of Rome, or immerse myself in the Britishness of England. (and my spell check tells me Britishness is a word I just made up) The canals of Venice or the city of Paris would also be at the top of the list. I’m sure I could spend at least a month exploring and photographing any of those destinations.

For the longest time, if any one asked me what other country I would like to visit, I would have said Australia. It seemed like the most American of other countries and offered a wide variety of scenery. By crikey, I could even understand the language. As I learned more about it, I found that most things there bite, scratch, sting, scrape, peck, kick or down right eat you. The excruciatingly long plane trip there seems even less desirable with that information.

Canada was closer but way to cold for me. I’m sure I could get lost in their wide expanse of territories and never find my way out.

Lately I have seen a lot of photos of Mexico. It’s fairly close and warm. They have lovely beaches that you can camp on and mountains and villages you can explore. It looks like it has a lot of possibilities even if there are some dangers. I would need get a fairly good grasp of Spanish before I would want to venture there.

I know I have exceeded my list of “5” but Norway and Nova Scotia would probably be at the top of my “must visit outside the USA” list.

I don’t feel the need to visit other countries because the good ‘ole USA holds enough diversity to keep me more than interested.

I don’t know if it as true as it used to be, but traveling to the far back countries of Kentucky, Tennessee, Mississippi, or Louisiana were like dropping into another country, if not another world.

I fell in love with the red landscapes of Utah. I was nervous about camping out in the back of my pickup truck in the middle of nowhere. When I settled into my spot on a cliff overlooking a vast landscape, I felt quite at home. Maybe I was an Indian in another life.

My work used to take me to some of the popular cities: New York, Las Vegas, Orlando, Anaheim, Seattle, Chicago, Dallas and probably a few others that don’t come to mind right now.

I have seen a lot of places, but my bucket list of places still keeps expanding. I still want to spend some time in Arizona and New Mexico. I want to park my RV on the beaches of Texas and enjoy the sounds of ocean and wind right outside my window. I want to spend more time in Montana. I want to visit the ghost towns of the old west-even the ones that are tourist attractions. I have barely researched Idaho, but what I have seen looks interesting. While I have been to Washington DC, I have yet to see the coast of the state of Washington. I want to experience “boondocking” in the western states before those areas are shut down due to overuse, lack of funds (our taxes), or misuse by people that trash them then move on to the next spot.

From the rocky cliffs of Maine, through the green trees of the East and Midwest, and past the red rocks of the West, America holds a variety of different “countries” within it’s coasts. I can understand the language, I can read all the signs, and know the rules of life here.

I have no need to travel to another country. My USA bucket list of places to go far exceeds the time I have left to see them.

“My bags are packed and I’m ready to go”-Peter, Paul and Mary (and John Denver) “Leaving on a Jet Plane”.